Family of Origin

Some of what you carry was never really yours. It was handed to you quietly, long before you had the words to question it, in the rules your family lived by, the roles you were given without being asked, the things nobody ever said out loud.

This group is a space to look at all of that clearly, alongside others doing the same work. Not to relitigate your childhood or diagnose your parents, but to see the system you came from for what it actually was. Once you can see it, you get to choose what comes with you and what you set down.

• You have noticed patterns repeating, in your relationships, your parenting, your own reactions, and you want to understand where they actually came from.
• You have done individual work before and feel ready to look at your family system directly, in a room with others who understand.
• You are navigating the specific weight of migration, cultural distance or family separation, and want a space that holds that context rather than a generic version of this work.
• The relationship with your mother is the centre of it, more than the wider system. What She Couldn't Give Me holds that one relationship on its own.
• Your family's response to your sexuality or gender identity is part of what you are carrying, whether that was rejection, silence, conditional acceptance, or a welcome that came with terms attached.
• You are ready to separate what is genuinely yours from what was only ever the family's.

This group draws directly from Roots vs Routes, Anoshe's own published framework. Roots was never just a word we liked. It is the actual family history, culture and continuity each of us carries. This group is where that idea becomes something you can sit with directly rather than only read about.

Facilitator

Our Founder and Clinical Director, a Mental Health Nurse Practitioner and Family and Couples Therapist

Format

Telehealth, 60 to 75 minutes per session

Group size

Small and closed, 6 to 8 people, so the space stays safe to go deep in

Best follows

Works well on its own, or as a natural next step after Load-Bearing

Session outlines are shown here. The workbook, exercises and facilitated discussion are part of the group itself.